Day 16

Listening to women talk about dating , how they approach men, respond to men and how treat men can be quite an interesting experience. I often think about my past attitudes about the whole dating thing/relationship thing...sometimes I cringe...sometimes I laugh. lol

Here are some Myths dispelled: (of course this is based on my expierences and what I've witness from others)

1. "Can you pay these bills up in here?"

Ladies....Now, I am all for letting man be a man and letting him help you if you are in a desparte situation BUT...why can't you pay your own bills like you were (hopefully) doing before you laid eyes on this brothaman? Being dependent and independent is a lopsided way to live. You can't be both. You want your bills paid but you'll be quick to tell a man about how this is YOUR house...etc etc blah blah blah. Handle your own business. Real men that about about something do not want a woman that is not on her money...trust that. They'll sleep with you...but that's it.

2. If you tell a man what you are NOT going to put up with and then you put up with it...guess what?? you have ZERO credibility. If you tell him that you will not tolerate him cheating on you and you catch him cheating more than once and continue to see him....you have ZERO credibility.

3.  Playing coy is a tricky thing.  On  the one hand, you don't want to come off as too bold thus creating the illusion that you are what kids today call 'thirsty'.  On the other hand, playing coy sends some men the wrong message.  Yes, some men like to chase but don't run to fast or too long or you'll wear him out...or bore him.  Let's face it.  We are all supposed to be grown so treat him with the same amount of respect and reverence that you expect.  I had a girlfriend who missed out on a great guy by playing coy and chase me for way too long.  He thought that she wasn't really interested and was just trying to play him...and he was wrong.  She was just so used to playing that same game for so long that she missed out.  It was a shame too since he really liked her.  Now he has a bad impression of her that is a real case of mistaken identity.  No matter how she tries to explain, he won't be buying it.  If you like him allow him to pursue you  but don't get so far ahead of him that you lose his attention.  You ain't the only cat in the jungle, ya know.